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2017 Breif Review of Feminism

So 2017 is they year I would like to say was the year I was awoken as a feminist.

I’m the girl, that laughs it off when I’m made uncomfortable. The girl who says yes to doing what YOU want to do, to make YOU happy. The girl who ignores sexism, racism and any other issues that happen infront of me because I HATE confrontation.

But I’ve realised I can’t do this anymore. I can’t call myself a feminist online, then hide in public. This is NOT being a feminist.

For the past few months I have been calling out sexist remarks, etc. I’ve discovered that I am a victim of gaslighting abuse and have since ended that friendship. I said no to a guy who then kept persisting and rather than laughing it off…I BLOCKED him. I am quite shocked at myself for being able to do that.

People say feminsm has gone too far, but I don’t think its gone far enough. Women are still catering to mens feelings. I’ve had men tell me that we are pushing men away from the movement by being so harsh against men…

Feminism is also ingoring issues women of colour face. It’s not doing enough of POC, not by a long shot.

Why can’t men just support the movement for women, why do women have to make men feel all happy inside for them to be able to support us?! This alone proves the arrogance men have. The more I learn about feminsm, the more I see why its needed.

I could go on forever.

2017 on a whole has been the year I became proud of being a feminist but I am still learning and still not doing enough.

2018 I aim to put myself first and other women, I am no longer catering to the feelings of men and the bullshit they come with. If you don’t identify as a feminist, then i am not continuing contact with you. It’s doing something meaningful. Just look at the #metoo or #timesup while even these aren’t doing enough, theyre doing something. I would much rather they encourage donations to all the organisations that help women of abuse rather than just turn up to collect their awards wearing black. Even look at the #menaretrash movement which is to raise awareness on all the things men do to women that they get away with. Time is up on me standing for that anymore and it should be for you too.

No more.

Intersecitionl feminism (the only feminism that matters) is the way forward!

 

I reccomend you follow instagram accounts such as:

  • douconsideryourselfafeminist (100%!!!!!!!!)
  • mattmcgorry
  • feministastic
  • emmawatson

– Hidden Shadows

 

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What to expect at University

This is just a little blog on what to expect when you start university, I hope this helps some people as I was freaking out this time last year. (UK though I’m sure it’s the same experience around the world).

First week…expect to get lost because everyone does. The first week is a separate timetable, it’s all about introducing you into the university. Setting up your IT accounts, getting contact information for teachers, tours and picking up your ID.

If you manage to make a friend or more, that’s great. Honestly, you literally just have to be like, “okay if I hang with you?” It honestly works. If you’re a loner, don’t worry about that either, there are loads. Being a loner will probably be useful, you’ll be able to concentrate more.

Seminars and lectures

Seminars are compulsory! They take a register. You’re in a class of about 20-30 people. It’s kind of just like being in class at school. At my university we got told if we missed 1 seminar, we would get an email. If we missed 2, we would get a warning and if we missed 3 we would have a meeting and may be kicked off the course. It’s usually just to scare you. I missed A LOT and never got anything more than an email. You’ll do exam preparation in these lessons, course work assessment help and random other tasks to get you used to any programmes you may be using such as SPSS for psychology students. 

Lectures

These are not compulsory. They say they may do random register checks, but they never do. They are huge rooms, just like you see on TV shows. Theatre like chairs with a table to write on. As you progress along the year you’ll notice the numbers of people turning up getting fewer and fewer. I skipped the majority of them, the ones I did go to I rarely took notes.

GO TO ALL YOUR LESSONS AND MAKE NOTES

Boy do I regret not doing this. For the assignments they set E.G 2500 word essay on the nature vs nurture argument for people who commit crime. It’s easier to do these, you have books and Google (saviour!) and about a month to do it. Of course I left it till last minute every time.

With exams, they’re not so easy to get through. I turned up to one and thought “What-the-fuck?” It was multiple choice so I thought, easy yeah. I was so wrong. I think the only question I got right was that babies start to smile at 3-6 months haha.

Overall I got for each of my subjects:

First (the best, only just!)

2.1 

2.2

2.2

2.2

Hey at least I didn’t get a third. But, if you get thirds throughout your first year don’t worry. The first year is basically just getting you used to everything. The grades you get will get you into the next to years, fail and you will have the chance to resit. However, if you only just manage to scrape through the year don’t worry. It won’t effect your final grade for your degree. The 1st year is basically meaningless when it comes to your degree. But it may be different for your course so don’t slack!

They usually have gyms, discount prices for students. Mine costs £100 for a full year…totally got my money’s worth 😆. Good to destress though.

The libraries usually have sections, quiet areas, group areas and books on every single topic. It’s a nice place to relax and normally have a cafe inside eith pretty decent food and drink. My university sells Costa Coffee 😏 at a good discount. 

Parking costs, if you’re driving plan what you’re doing. There’s usually university badges or passes you can buy for a term or year of parking on site. Other than thst you’re going to have to find somewhere which is probably just going to cost more and be a lot more difficult so you may as well just get university parking 🙂

It’s not as bad as I thought it would be. You learn your way around eventually. Making friends isn’t that important but it is a perk. Just pay attention, if you need help ask for it. Don’t stress, it doesnt help. Have a nice cup of tea and a good breakfast. Relax! Enjoy it!

-Hidden Shadows