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2017 Breif Review of Feminism

So 2017 is they year I would like to say was the year I was awoken as a feminist.

I’m the girl, that laughs it off when I’m made uncomfortable. The girl who says yes to doing what YOU want to do, to make YOU happy. The girl who ignores sexism, racism and any other issues that happen infront of me because I HATE confrontation.

But I’ve realised I can’t do this anymore. I can’t call myself a feminist online, then hide in public. This is NOT being a feminist.

For the past few months I have been calling out sexist remarks, etc. I’ve discovered that I am a victim of gaslighting abuse and have since ended that friendship. I said no to a guy who then kept persisting and rather than laughing it off…I BLOCKED him. I am quite shocked at myself for being able to do that.

People say feminsm has gone too far, but I don’t think its gone far enough. Women are still catering to mens feelings. I’ve had men tell me that we are pushing men away from the movement by being so harsh against men…

Feminism is also ingoring issues women of colour face. It’s not doing enough of POC, not by a long shot.

Why can’t men just support the movement for women, why do women have to make men feel all happy inside for them to be able to support us?! This alone proves the arrogance men have. The more I learn about feminsm, the more I see why its needed.

I could go on forever.

2017 on a whole has been the year I became proud of being a feminist but I am still learning and still not doing enough.

2018 I aim to put myself first and other women, I am no longer catering to the feelings of men and the bullshit they come with. If you don’t identify as a feminist, then i am not continuing contact with you. It’s doing something meaningful. Just look at the #metoo or #timesup while even these aren’t doing enough, theyre doing something. I would much rather they encourage donations to all the organisations that help women of abuse rather than just turn up to collect their awards wearing black. Even look at the #menaretrash movement which is to raise awareness on all the things men do to women that they get away with. Time is up on me standing for that anymore and it should be for you too.

No more.

Intersecitionl feminism (the only feminism that matters) is the way forward!


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  • douconsideryourselfafeminist (100%!!!!!!!!)
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  • feministastic
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– Hidden Shadows


equality · Feminism · Politics


Can I just say, I made myself a cup of tea and wrote a nice chilled blog. I’ve been aiming to be calmer because people trigger me so easily, it’s a flaw of mine. 

I guess it was short lived. I go on Twitter, and see things trending such as ‘Islamaphobia’ and find that we have a bunch of (mostly) white men saying they aren’t Islamaphobic…followed by an Islamaphobic comment.

I could scream people piss me off so easily.

Basically everything I see is, again usually white men, saying “this is political correctness gone mad.”

An example is the announcement of the thirteenth doctor. She’s female. And oh my god aren’t they pissed.

I used to be like them though. I used to think , “Jeeze, this political correctness is getting out of hand.” But then I realised. It’s not being political correct, it’s about being right and moral.

It’s not politically correct to give the LGBTQ community more rights. It’s fucking right and humane! It’s what we should be doing! 

The doctor is female. SO WHAT! It’s not politically correctness gone mad, it’s equality bitches!

Is your masculinity so fragile that you’re threatened by women have the same rights and opportunities as you.

A comment I see commonly is “are we going to get a >Insert female ‘J’ name here <Bond now?” Uhmm did I miss the movie where Bond regenerates and goes on time travel adventures?

Feminism, isn’t about wiping men out of everything. It’s about giving fair roles to women. If a woman can be strong and powerful, then why can’t she have that role. If its spwcificallg a dedicated male character, then yeah it’s going to stay a man.

We aren’t going to be seeing a Christina Grey or Holly Potter. Chill out. I wouldn’t want to see that happen either.

But the doctor, is able to change everything about him. The master became a woman. Time Lord’s don’t care about gender, sex, sexuality, none of that bullshit. SO why not have a female character.

We never had a female doctor before because women weren’t accepted in the past. No one would watch a series where the woman is the protagonist. From the reaction I can say it’s pretty obvious that feminism is still needed…

I hope the companion will be male. It will be nice to see a man het in trouble and need saving from the doctor. Won’t that piss you sexist misogynists off.

Of course being politically correct doesn’t mean you’re always right, but those who use it as an insult are most usually wrong. 

It’s not political correcteness. It’s being non racist, sexist, homophobic. It’s accepting and being fair. It that gets your dick in a twist then so be it, but this is the future. Where we don’t look down our noses at people for being different but instead we celebrate it!

I’m going to have to get another cuppa now 😏

-Hidden Shadows

equality · Feminism

Should men win more custody battles?

I identify myself as a feminist, or I’m an aspiring one. For a lot of people it’s a bad thing. I have been attacked online for my views that women should be treat equally, however, I am aware that there are areas where we simply can’t be.

For example, Feminism wants to have more women working in areas such as plumbing or construction. However, a lot of women don’t actually aspire to be a plumber or builder and just because it is male dominant, that doesn’t make it a bad thing. We can mentally be equal. We can be paid equally. But physically, we aren’t naturally equal unless you’re a hard-core gym goer. If you’re a woman and you want to work in construction, then go for it! Don’t let anything hold you back.

When I say, “I’m a feminist” I am attacked by men mainly. They tell me I should be focusing on mens rights too if I truly want equality. In my opinion having both female and mens issues under one group cancels out the issues of both. But feminism is doing great at helping both! More homeless shelters for men and raising awareness that men can have emotions too, and so much more! Though a lot like to ignore this.

One issue that I hear so often is that if we truly want equality then men should be winning more custody battles.

However, I know it may seem unfair but I don’t think this should happen.

Naturally men are fitter and stronger. Women are naturally more maternal. In many cases, a child turns to their mother in need. Simply because it is built into us that mother’s will give us what we need. Women carry a baby for 9 months, they go through the pain of carrying it and then giving birth. This is not a man’s fault of course. But it’s simply fact that a mother make a bond way before most fathers. Most fathers truly make the bond when they’re born, there’s even scientific evidence that babies look more like their fathers upon birth so the male can bond quicker with the child (A study in nature, 1995). 

So when parents sadly divorce, women usually get the child and men see this as unfair. And it is, but it’s for the best of the child! Put your child first.

A mother is more maternal, taking her child away will be extremely painful to her. Men, usually, have work to keep the  busy, and while times are changing, women are usually the one’s with the children and no work. If the father wins custody, he is going to juggle work and a baby and the mother will have nothing. So in terms of work, it’s common sense for the mother to have the child.

Unless the mother is a bad parent, or the child is old enough (7+) to state their own opinions on who they want to live with, then the mother should have custody.

If you’re going through a divorce, I know it’s tough to feel like you’re losing everything, but the child’s wellbeing is what is most important.

If you honestly believe the mother is incapable of taking care of the child, then fight for your children but do what is truly best for them. Don’t rip their lives apart for the sake of spite.

-Hidden Shadows

equality · Feminism · Health · Sexual Health

Boots Charge Women £30 for Contraception

I’m sure a lot of you have heard. I am frankly, appauld. 

If you don’t know, Boots are selling the morning after pill (contraception for women) for £30, meanwhile stores such as Superdrug and Tesco are selling them at half the price.

If a woman has intercourse, and let’s say for the example, the condom broke. She would need the morning after pill. Put yourself in that womans shoes. Worried she may get pregnant, rushing out to buy the pills and finding they’re £30. People can’t afford that.

It’s also been shown how Boots are selling condoms half price currently. This isn’t a bad thing, but condoms are not 100%. They can’t promote sex then overcharge women when they need something in an emergency!

The outrage is clear on social media. Boots replied…

“We would not want to be accused of incentivising inappropriate use, and provoking complaints, by significantly reducing the price of this product”

So, they think it’s fine to promote sex but not helping women in need after sex? They’re saying, women can not be trusted to use contraception.  Oh I’m sorry Boots, I forgot women didn’t have brains and must rely on men to make sure we use things appropriately.

Even on the Boots website, there is a section for men dedicated to sexual health, however, for women there is no such thing. Are women’s sexual health not as important as mens? Because it doesn’t seem like it is to Boots.

Women are already taxed for just being a woman. Extra for razors or shaving cream and so much more. £30 for contraceptives is beyond a joke, it’s disgusting and misogynistic. 

Are we living in 1917 or 2017?  have forgotten, you know…my female brain isn’t capable of knowing the year never mind taking control of my own health.

Pull your act together Boots, follow the lead of other stores and listen to the public! 

Don’t stop the tweets, the emails, the petitions until they change this!

-Hidden Shadows